I have a friend who seems to think it is okay to share my personal business with her family. I’ve shared some of my relationship issues with her in hopes that she would give me her advice. I never knew she was telling her family my business. The other day I was speaking to her about an issue with my man and she says, “My aunt Marilyn said she don’t know why you still with him, she said she gonna add you to her prayer list. Marilyn said you are way too nice to be with a man like that.”
First of all let me say that I do not have a personal relationship with Aunt Marilyn and have only met her a handful of times. We most certainly have not swapped secrets, not to mention Auntie is at least 60 years old…way out of my age demographics as far as friends go.
So when she said this I looked at her crazy but did not respond. My behavior towards her has changed, I know longer share my information with her anymore. Our relationship is not as personal as it used to be. I barely call her anymore. Needless to say I was pissed when I found out that she thought it was a good idea to share my information with her family. Not to mention that she was so cool with it she even thought it was a good idea to tell me that she was putting my business in the street.
I am not really a catty woman and I don’t believe that all women are two faced and want to bring other women down. There is a myth out there that women can’t get along with other women and I do not believe that to be true.
I do believe there are some people who are insecure with themselves and find it refreshing to speak ill of others to make themselves feel a little better, especially when it comes to the relationship front. I also believe that these same people are people who are in most need of friends but are incapable of keeping them due to their own self destructive behavior.
I now tell this friend nothing but good things about my relationship. I even make up stuff sometimes to give the illusion that my relationship is the greatest thing since slice bread. I try to make it so sweet that it becomes sickening. I do this on purpose; this seems to be a person that won’t spread good news, only bad. It’s a shame that I do this but I rather do this and talk to her less frequently than to cuss her ass out and make her feel stupid.
All friends are built differently some are all around good people, while others are only good for one thing or another. There are some lessons I am still learning.